You and I don’t lie, if you define ‘lying’ as ‘intentionally telling an untruth.’ How does it feel, though, when you’ve said something would happen, and then, it doesn’t? It’s just something that happens, right? Time and the unforeseen and all that. That’s hard for me. When I tell a client or a friend ‘this [...]
Saying ‘Yes’ is easy. Carrie talks about what happens when we mix up ‘Yes’ and ‘No’ between what we say and what we do. It’s a good read. She includes four exercises: Say No when you mean No at least 3 times a day all week and stick to it. Pause before you say Yes [...]
Today’s guest post is a conversation about accepting compliments which I had with Karen Lynn Ragsdale and a handful of others, wherein she presented what was, to me, a challenging idea about giving. Karen Lynn knows a lot about how intent affects trust. So here’s the thing about gifts…you have to give ‘em up. Ya [...]
Really? Honesty can be brutal? It is my experience that those who endorse brutal honesty are hoping we’ll all become just as rude as they are, so they don’t stand out so much. After all, why should they have to learn manners just to fit in with all of us, what, gently honest people? Nonsense. [...]
Intent is a powerful tool. In the ‘trust tree’ it’s the trunk—the only portion that’s partly invisible, partly visible. Our intent begins inside, then becomes evident to others.
Some things are true. They are knowable. They can be measured, quantified in some way, verified, observed, taught.
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