I recently created some WordPress short codes for Know Your Music, my music blog. Short codes allow you to type a sort of fake code, which WordPress will convert to the big long ugly code on the fly, automatically. It’s like shorthand for computers. The process itself is fairly simple PHP coding which, as a [...]
Saying ‘Yes’ is easy. Carrie talks about what happens when we mix up ‘Yes’ and ‘No’ between what we say and what we do. It’s a good read. She includes four exercises: Say No when you mean No at least 3 times a day all week and stick to it. Pause before you say Yes [...]
Really? Honesty can be brutal? It is my experience that those who endorse brutal honesty are hoping we’ll all become just as rude as they are, so they don’t stand out so much. After all, why should they have to learn manners just to fit in with all of us, what, gently honest people? Nonsense. [...]
Intent is a powerful tool. In the ‘trust tree’ it’s the trunk—the only portion that’s partly invisible, partly visible. Our intent begins inside, then becomes evident to others.
Some things are true. They are knowable. They can be measured, quantified in some way, verified, observed, taught.
Over the next 7 days I’m going to write a series of posts, one per day. Each will address a writing habit which causes me serious distress as a reader. I will not be delicate. Toes will be trodden.
Words mean what they mean, and somewhere in our unconscious, we believe what we’re really saying, not what we think we’re saying.
Contracts are not about money. Contracts are about clarifying the communication.
When a question begs the obvious and expected answer, we’re not really asking a question; we’re making a disguised statement or request or demand. Wording the demand as a question, with the lilting raised voice at the end and a smile on our face, does not transmogrify it into an innocent act.
Words do a poor job of hiding our true intentions. Whether it’s disdain or love, what you feel or believe about your listener will leak into your communication. No; really. It will.
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