You and I don’t lie, if you define ‘lying’ as ‘intentionally telling an untruth.’ How does it feel, though, when you’ve said something would happen, and then, it doesn’t? It’s just something that happens, right? Time and the unforeseen and all that. That’s hard for me. When I tell a client or a friend ‘this [...]
I recently created some WordPress short codes for Know Your Music, my music blog. Short codes allow you to type a sort of fake code, which WordPress will convert to the big long ugly code on the fly, automatically. It’s like shorthand for computers. The process itself is fairly simple PHP coding which, as a [...]
Today’s guest post is a conversation about accepting compliments which I had with Karen Lynn Ragsdale and a handful of others, wherein she presented what was, to me, a challenging idea about giving. Karen Lynn knows a lot about how intent affects trust. So here’s the thing about gifts…you have to give ‘em up. Ya [...]
Got sucked into a contretemps in an online community today. I try not to become indignant when folks are narrow-minded. Sometimes I let my emotions get the best of me, and end up feeding a troll. So what do you do when someone in what was supposed to be a professional venue speaks in a [...]
Just took a little ride on a time machine. Five minutes ago I received an email regarding Samuel Beckett’s Lessness. This struck me as slightly unusual; I’m not aware of any special interest in Beckett. Sorry. But there, below the email, was my email requesting access to some of the information. I’d sent my request [...]
Back when I was angrier, I used to say “Never argue with an idiot; they’ll drag you down to their level, then beat you with their expertise.” How do you avoid getting sucked into pointless flame wars, especially the kind that happen via email at the office, but also the kind that happen at your [...]
Intent is a powerful tool. In the ‘trust tree’ it’s the trunk—the only portion that’s partly invisible, partly visible. Our intent begins inside, then becomes evident to others.
Some things are true. They are knowable. They can be measured, quantified in some way, verified, observed, taught.
Words mean what they mean, and somewhere in our unconscious, we believe what we’re really saying, not what we think we’re saying.
Contracts are not about money. Contracts are about clarifying the communication.
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