You and I don’t lie, if you define ‘lying’ as ‘intentionally telling an untruth.’ How does it feel, though, when you’ve said something would happen, and then, it doesn’t? It’s just something that happens, right? Time and the unforeseen and all that. That’s hard for me. When I tell a client or a friend ‘this [...]
I recently created some WordPress short codes for Know Your Music, my music blog. Short codes allow you to type a sort of fake code, which WordPress will convert to the big long ugly code on the fly, automatically. It’s like shorthand for computers. The process itself is fairly simple PHP coding which, as a [...]
Saying ‘Yes’ is easy. Carrie talks about what happens when we mix up ‘Yes’ and ‘No’ between what we say and what we do. It’s a good read. She includes four exercises: Say No when you mean No at least 3 times a day all week and stick to it. Pause before you say Yes [...]
Today’s guest post is a conversation about accepting compliments which I had with Karen Lynn Ragsdale and a handful of others, wherein she presented what was, to me, a challenging idea about giving. Karen Lynn knows a lot about how intent affects trust. So here’s the thing about gifts…you have to give ‘em up. Ya [...]
Got sucked into a contretemps in an online community today. I try not to become indignant when folks are narrow-minded. Sometimes I let my emotions get the best of me, and end up feeding a troll. So what do you do when someone in what was supposed to be a professional venue speaks in a [...]
Just took a little ride on a time machine. Five minutes ago I received an email regarding Samuel Beckett’s Lessness. This struck me as slightly unusual; I’m not aware of any special interest in Beckett. Sorry. But there, below the email, was my email requesting access to some of the information. I’d sent my request [...]
Everyone asks. They’re all worried that they’re writing too much, or not enough. (Nobody seems to worry that they’re writing exactly the right amount and that someone will be confused or annoyed.) So what’s the answer? How long should a blog post or book or chapter or any written work be? Here’s an analogy which [...]
Really? Honesty can be brutal? It is my experience that those who endorse brutal honesty are hoping we’ll all become just as rude as they are, so they don’t stand out so much. After all, why should they have to learn manners just to fit in with all of us, what, gently honest people? Nonsense. [...]
Back when I was angrier, I used to say “Never argue with an idiot; they’ll drag you down to their level, then beat you with their expertise.” How do you avoid getting sucked into pointless flame wars, especially the kind that happen via email at the office, but also the kind that happen at your [...]
Intent is a powerful tool. In the ‘trust tree’ it’s the trunk—the only portion that’s partly invisible, partly visible. Our intent begins inside, then becomes evident to others.
